Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.
~ William James
This week’s card echoes the guidance of last week’s card, calling to our higher nature, and guiding us with hope, beauty and love. Welcome to The Lovers.
On the surface, this card is often assumed to point to matters regarding our romantic love relationships. And often, it does. But this Major Arcana is more truly about our own inner journeys, specifically how we make important choices.
In fact, in some older decks, such as the Tarot of Marseilles, The Lovers depicts a man standing between two women, evidently deciding whether he will succumb to darker temptations, or choose a more respectable (but perhaps less spicy) relationship.
In the Rider-Waite-Smith deck, there is no dark temptress, but a more mystical scene, suggesting the choice made in the Garden of Eden. The woman gazes heavenward, the snake and the tree behind her; the man looks to the woman.
Presiding over this moment is an angel, sometimes identified as Raphael, but (based on what we know of the Order of the Golden Dawn’s rituals), it is probably the solar fire angel, Michael.
Thus, the R-W-S deck broadens the message of The Lovers to be, not only choices about a particular relationship or social situation, but how, who, and why we love.
As most students of the Tarot know, the Lovers’ opposite card, based on the numerology and Birth/Personality cards’ relationships is The Devil.
In fact, in the Rider-Waite-Smith deck you can see it is the same couple in both cards.
The Devil of the Tarot teaches how we may be enslaved through fears, unconscious habits, and self-sabotage. The goat-headed creature makes a sign of blessing, but the couple stands frozen in loose chains. This is how we give away our power, refuse growth, play it safe, and prefer our suffering to the risk of the unknown.
In The Lovers, also, the presiding magical being offers his blessings. In this case, they are aware, and receptive. They see life as a beautiful garden, not a pit of condemnation and despair.
Which do you believe in?
We create our reality by how we choose and “attend to things.” Like The Lovers, when we reveal our true, passionate hearts, we are Divinely blessed.
Therefore, to whom and how we give our truest love can reveal the deepest truth about who we are. Who is allowed into our most intimate presence (and why) shows the extent to which we respect, trust, and honor ourselves.
This week, the Universe may be offering you a very important choice. It may be about a relationship, or something else that you care deeply about.
To what or whom do you give yourself without fear or reservations? What would you choose if you had no fear, but simply a heart overflowing with joy and trust?
What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
To make wise choices about your relationships, ask yourself honestly – do the people in your life behave as if they truly value the love that you give? Do you value what you give?
And who returns this deep love to you equally, without qualification or conditions?
You deserve no less that what you offer with all your splendid, adoring heart.
This week, in the name of all that is holy, may Love guide our soul’s choices.