Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.
~ William James
Gracious! We are on the most powerful streak of Majors I have ever seen in all my years of presenting the Card of the Week. This week, after The Sun, The World, and Death, we are making it a full month of Majors! We welcome (for only the second time ever), The Lovers.
Also this week, the Sun leaves the sign of Pluto-ruled Scorpio, moving into fiery Sagittarius, and we celebrate the darkest Dark Moon of the year (the last before the Sun’s rebirth at Winter Solstice). The New Moon also brings us a solar eclipse. And many of us will also be traveling to join family of blood or heart for our great festival of giving thanks.
Into this context, The Lovers calls to our higher nature. It shines before us with all its hope, beauty and love.
On the surface, The Lovers is often assumed to point to matters regarding our romantic love relationships. And often, it does. But this important card of the Major Arcana is more truly about making choices.
In fact, in some older decks, such as the Tarot of Marseilles, The Lovers depicts a man standing between two women, evidently deciding whether he will succumb to darker temptations, or choose a more respectable (but perhaps less spicy) relationship.
In the Rider-Waite-Smith deck, there is no dark temptress, but a more mystical scene, suggesting the choice made in the Garden of Eden. The woman gazes heavenward, the snake and the tree behind her; the man looks to the woman.
Presiding over this moment is an angel, sometimes identified as Raphael, but (based on what we know of the Order of the Golden Dawn’s rituals), it is probably the solar fire angel, Michael.
Thus, the R-W-S deck broadens the message of The Lovers to be, not only choices about a particular relationship or social situation, but how, who, and why we love.
As most students of the Tarot know, the opposite card of the Lovers is The Devil. In fact, in the Rider-Waite-Smith deck you can see it is the same couple in both cards.
The Devil of the Tarot enslaves through fears, habits and self-sabotage. The Lovers are free, aware, and without shame.
We create our reality by how we choose and “attend to things.” Like The Lovers, when we give ourselves with our open, passionate hearts, we are Divinely blessed.
Therefore, to whom and how we give our love can reveal the deepest truth about who we are. Who is allowed into our most intimate presence (and why) shows the extent to which we respect, trust, and honor ourselves.
This week, the Universe may be offering you a very important choice. It may be about a relationship, or something else that you care deeply about.
To what or whom do you give yourself without fear or reservations? What would you choose if you had no fear, but simply a heart overflowing with joy and trust? What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
To make wise choices about your relationships, ask yourself honestly – do the people in your life behave as if they truly value the love that you give? Do you value what you give?
And who returns this deep love to you equally, without qualification or conditions?
You deserve no less that what you offer with all your splendid, loving heart.
May Love bless us all.