The Fifth House in astrology is the House that reflects our relationships with children. This includes our own biological children, as well as how the parent/child relationship plays out in our lives.
Most of us recognize that, for better or worse, how we were parented will forever impact how we rear our children. This is one of the themes that can be illuminated in the Fifth House.
One of the most controversial events in the long, long career of advice columnist Ann Landers was her poll in 1975-76, asking parents whether, if they had it all to do over again, they would still have had children. To her shock, of the 10,000 responses she received (mind you, this was before email — every single response was a hand-written letter or card), a whopping 70% said, no. They would not have had kids.
Since then, it has been proven that from a statistical and scientific viewpoint, there were huge flaws in this survey, especially the questionable framing of the question, and the sampling used. For instance, when Good Housekeeping magazine solicited their readers to voice their opinions in response, unsurprisingly, 95% wrote to defend parenting.
Still, it’s a fair question, and one that many couples struggle with.
I had always imagined I would have lots of kids, as I love children and tend to prefer their company at parties, etc., when given a choice. But being a mother was not in the cards for me, and there are many reasons now, in my elderhood, that I am at peace that this has been the case.
What about you? Do you have children? Was this a conscious decision for you? If so, how did you decide? Would you do it all over again? Please feel free to post.
Tomorrow, as is usual on the weekends, I’ll share some thoughts that have been offered from more well-known viewpoints.