Man shapes himself through decisions that shape his environment.
— René Dubos (1901-1982. Environmentalist, microbiologist and creator of the slogan, “Think Globally, Act Locally.”)
As the Winter season begins to loosen its grip, we can prepare for Springtime energy by considering the impact of our home environment on our own energetic field. Our home is a template that affects how we feel in profound ways. By changing the elements of the home, we can improve health, love, and well being.
So it is an important act of self-care to create a home environment that restores, refreshes and brings you into harmony with your true self. And by intentionally weaving the magic you desire in your home, you can, in turn, manifest those energies in your “outer” life.
One of the oldest, most widely used traditions employing this two-way power is the art of feng shui. Feng shui is the ancient Chinese art of living in harmony with your environment. It literally translates into “wind and water.” Feng Shui is often defined as the art of placement because much of it revolves around determining the positive or negative directions for the people, their dwellings, and the relationship between them.
While there are various schools of feng shui, and even some similar wisdom traditions in other cultures, they all agree that there is a unifying vital force which some call Qi (sometimes spelled chi). Qi is invisible, and undetectable by the first five senses, or by any physical instrument (so far). But it pervades all things and all beings. Its effect is seen everywhere, as it animates us, binds us, and moves us through our life cycles. Like the air we breathe, though, Qi is not of uniform quality. Some is fresh and nourishing while some is stale or detrimental.
For instance, all feng shui practitioners agree that clutter and messiness in your home is a sign of stuck, stagnant energy. The more clutter you have, the more sluggish the Qi becomes. This can, in turn, play out in your public life as well, since we become attuned to the energy in our homes, and carry it out with us into the wider world.
I met with a client several years ago who had been alone for many years, and was not very happy about it. But upon visiting her apartment, I saw that there were piles of clothes on her bed (which I suppose she shuffled around in order to sleep, and then put back during the day). Her living room was scattered with clutter, dirty dishes and newspapers, and there was not even a place to sit down.
Much less fool around with a date!
She ate her microwaved meals hunched at her kitchen counter. Where would she have brought a friend, if she’d wanted to have a cozy romantic dinner at home? Her closets were overflowing with junk dating back to her teen years. Where would a potential lover have hung his coat? There was no place for even an extra toothbrush , and, in fact, there was no room in her apartment at all for a lover. This sent a loud and clear energetic message to the Universe. No wonder she couldn’t connect with anyone.
When the areas of your home associated with romance are cluttered and untidy, your love life is affected as well. Similarly, using both feng shui principles and the simple fact that Nature abhors a vacuum, if you make room for the energy you wish to bring into your life, there is a much better chance of receiving it. Make a space at your table, both literally and metaphorically. Expect the fulfillment of your heart’s desire, and let your home reflect it.
From a feng shui perspective, the three places in your home that have the strongest impact on your love life are your bedroom, the “Relationship Area,” and the space around your front door.
Over the next few days, I’ll tell you more about these and what you can do to enhance them, as well as other kinds of easy, inexpensive changes you can make to enhance the Qi in your home.