It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
~ Professor Albus Dumbledore, via J.K. Rowling
Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
Back for an encore appearance, having just visited last month, The Lovers clearly has an important message for us in these pivotal times. To read more about the symbolism in it, you can visit my recent post.
It is no coincidence that it is making repeated appearances, since this year is, in fact, the Lovers Year. (2013: 2+0+1+3=6). And this week, pivotal events and choices certainly lie ahead.
The U.S. Supreme Court is preparing for their Summer recess, and will be ruling on four of the biggest cases in generations.
Their decisions are already made (in total secrecy) and the rulings will be released in the next seven days or so. They include decisions on affirmative action, possibly striking down a core part of the landmark Voting Rights Act, whether or not to invalidate a federal law that defines marriage as an opposite-sex union only, and possibly (hopefully!) overturning California’s ban on gay weddings.
My dear reader, you and I know perfectly well that unions of love are Love, no matter what genitalia or orientation the adults in question may possess.
Love has no gender, Love blesses and heals without condition or question. It “does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”
So may the goodness of Love prevail at this important crossroads of history. May the Justices act from the heart of Love, blessed by the Divine Beloved.
In personal readings, The Lovers card is often exactly what you would assume – a card that speaks of relationships, sexual attraction, and creating union with someone.
But, as you would expect for a Major Arcana card, there are also deeper energies at work when this card comes up — energies about who we are, who we are becoming.
The Lovers speaks to how we make the choices that empower our relationships in the first place. And, typically, those choices hinge on how we perceive ourselves and our place in the bigger scheme of things.
It reminds us that the people we associate with, to whom we give our love, time, and devotion, are a direct reflection of our own self-image.
When we are needy, immature, or selfish, we draw people into our lives that feed and mirror those attitudes. When we are in balance with our highest, most courageous and loving path, we attract and appreciate others whose lights also shine brightly.
In other words, the healthier and happier we are, the healthier and happier those with whom we choose to be intimate.
So this week, we are invited to reflect on who we have allowed into our innermost circles and why. The Lovers asks us, not to pass judgement on them, but to consider how they do or do not reflect our common values and awaken our higher natures.
Rather than figuring out what motivates (or excuses) the people in your life, simply notice how you are feeling about yourself after you’ve been around them. Relaxed or tense? Upbeat or full of self-doubt? With whom can you, like The Lovers, can be unselfconsciously vulnerable, unashamed to be who you really are?
Are there people in your intimate circles that bring out your best and inspire you? Or do you find yourself resentful, confused, defensive, or perhaps falling into unwholesome behavior patterns?
There are people who believe in us but also challenge us out of our comfort zones, or urge us to grow and change. Then there are those whose energy or dramas just leave us feeling drained.
If you are seeing unhealthful connections, perhaps it’s time to wish them peace and step away.
But for those whose presence brings affirmation, growth, and a zest for living, trust that the blessings of angels shall be with you.