As a Follow-up on Patricia Monaghan’s Crossing

by Beth on November 14, 2012

Patricia’s husband, who is a friend and colleague from the Cherry Hill Seminary Board of Directors, has asked us to share this with all who have been touched by the death of his wife, the beloved author, artist, teacher, and leader, Patricia Monaghan.   You are welcome, in turn, to pass it along to others if you think it appropriate. ~ Beth 

I am devastated by the loss of my beloved wife and partner in all things, Patricia. I am also filled with gratitude and love for all the wonderful things said about Patricia. She has left our lives and yet she will live long. There is a huge hollow in me and in the life and all the things that Patricia and I did and will do.

She traveled a journey with cancer these last 2 years. It was a journey of hope and disappointment.

It was a journey that included her work, whether it was finishing the paperback version of Goddesses and Heroines, how to strengthen the Black Earth Institute, the decorating scheme for the Wisconsin house after we moved from Chicago, or how to control the temperature in the new root cellar.  She was concerned that we had not yet put up the dried beans from the garden.

On Friday evening we were working on editing a manuscript until 11:30 at night. She died at home in my arms on Sunday morning at 3:45AM.

She didn’t like to be called brave though she was.

She didn’t at all like being called a force of nature but she was.

She didn’t like it when people said, “How can you do so much?”, but she “did” from morn ’till night. We would work hard all day on many things and then say, “Well at least we got a little bit done.”

Patricia was a scholar, artist, spiritual practitioner and leader and political activist. She was a gardener and literally a path creator. One of my favorite memories is of her pulling our large honey suckle bushes in the wet spring soil to create a path in our woods. This creation she carried into all things, whether leading us to the goddess, to a land ethic or to the struggle for a more just society.

Let us all honor Patricia for all the things she was and will be.

~ Michael McDermott 

 

[Details of memorial and celebration service locations removed. If you need to know, email me. - B.]

 

 

Maria November 15, 2012 at 9:10 am

Beautiful! Thank you for sharing it.

Theresa ~EagleHeart~ November 15, 2012 at 11:36 am

I’m so glad you posted this. I have several of her books and when I first heard of her transition I went to the internet to find more and was left unsatisfied. This fills truly honoring and like a mini-memorial for those of us who only knew her from her words, but have been so blessed by her. Blessed be Patricia, Merry Part~~~

Molly Harris November 22, 2012 at 1:12 pm

Michael, thank you so much for sharing your feelings and thoughts. All of our hearts are with you. Both of you are phenomenal people. Patricia will be so greatly missed upon this earth. She was always so kind to me.
I read The Red Haired Girl from the Bog at a time when I wanted to take a trip to Ireland. The book is one of my favorites ever, and I thought, “I would love to travel to Ireland with HER!” Shortly after, I found out that she took students to Connemara every fall and often allowed others to join the trip. I was blessed enough to do so and enjoyed ten days of bliss in Ireland and as her student.
And then this spring she encouraged me to present a paper at the Women and Mythology conference, something I don’t think anyone else could have convinced me to do! The experience of being there with her and all the mothers of this movement was phenomenal.
Patricia was always so helpful and shared so much of her wisdom and knowledge freely and kindly. She was also funny and engaging and full of side conversations on any topic. I have been so touched to see in blogs all over the Internet how so many people had the same experience of her generosity with her time and wisdom. Just in September I wrote to ask if she recommended books on Sheela-na-gig, and she quickly sent me a list of fabulous books.
I was stunned to hear of her death. She was so full of life and droll and full of plans and upcoming books when I saw her in May. I will miss her so very much and have great empathy and sadness for your “hollow” in your loss of such an incredible life partner. Patricia, Blessings on your soul’s journey. Michael, we send prayers and caring thoughts in your grief.

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