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Staying In Touch With Ourselves

Success is bounding from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
— Winston Churchill

Just because our creativity is (I believe with all my heart) guided and sourced from the Divine, this does not mean that the road is always easy, without bumps and potholes. In fact, sometimes, there will be chasms!

To be fulfilled creatives, we must learn to cope with detours, setbacks and loss. And one of the most important elements of successfully working with our creative challenges is to recognize when we are hurt. As blocked artists, this is not always as easy as it sounds.

For instance, to survive my childhood, I was a good soldier, unflinchingly marching through all the rough stuff. I learned to act like bullets could bounce off of my heart, even if it was secretly breaking, and just keep enduring.

Don’t get me wrong — when I see others in pain or difficulty, I am instantly on the spot, overflowing with empathy and connection. But if it is about me, personally, I am programmed to instantly detach and deny. I have worked very hard to heal this, but I still sometimes have a delay between being hit with something intimately painful and actually feeling my own reaction.

Because we are creative, we are sensitive. To de-sensitize is to jeopardize our creativity. As blocked creatives, we each have our issues with de-sensitizing and denying. It’s what we do.

So brushing off our deep disappointments with “Who cares?” or “Who was I kidding anyway?” is dangerous territory for us. Julia warns, “The unmourned disappointment becomes the barrier that separates us from future dreams.”

Burying our feelings about loss or disappointment and pretending we are super-tough is exactly what creates the scar tissue that blocks us and makes it difficult, if not impossible, for us to trust our Source and flow with our art.

One of the most crippling sources of pain for us comes from criticism. But not every kind of criticism. Learning how to discern toxic criticism will help us cope in healthy ways that do not shut us down.

More about this tomorrow.

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  • September 16, 2009, 10:05 am Anonymous

    Catherine BTW:
    Thanks for this today Beth; this is truly a core struggle for me.
    But as I read your words, I realized it is time to just sit with and finally embrace. I look forward to tomorrow's posting!!

  • September 16, 2009, 6:42 pm Rick Loftus, M.D.

    Beth, now I know you are magic, because this "good soldier" bit is the story of my life, and it's taken its toll on me, and I'm trying to survive a chasm right this second. The biggest ever. Thanks for the wisdom.

  • September 16, 2009, 8:35 pm Anonymous

    LOVE this site. check almost every day, and am so grateful for you. thank you.

  • September 17, 2009, 1:35 am Anita Joy

    My mum used to cut the toast up into 'soldiers to dip into my soft-boiled egg that would be perched in a special egg-cup.

    Yeah, I had the 'soldier on' childhood too. Mother with a mental illness, father in denial and I'm an only child. Have been through the core struggles with the help of Julia's other books, Walking in the World and The Vein of Gold.

    We are such hard-boiled eggs and it takes an exquisite form of Grace to recognise when to get out of the hot water so that you still retain your soft-centre; your sacred heart.

    Embracing the mystery. Think I'll have green eggs and ham for dinner with toast soldiers.

  • September 17, 2009, 4:25 am Beth Owl's Daughter

    Isn't it HUGE to know you're not alone?

    Wish I could give each and every one of you a huge hug…sounds ooey-gooey, but it's true!

    – Beth

  • September 17, 2009, 10:07 am Madeline

    How many soldiers are out there?? MANY of us–we're into turbulent times, and excavating the soft,vulnerable part of ourselves is..scary! Is it SAFE to be vulnerable? Is it safe to FORGIVE OURSELVES? Is it safe to DREAM and to CREATE??

    This is the journey Beth is taking us on right now–thank you BETH!!