Comments on: Forbidden Joys http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/ Practical Wisdom for Extraordinary Living Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:02:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jen http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1439 Jen Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:51:09 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1439 Ten things I would love to do but am not allowed to do:<br />1. Wear a sexy outfit<br />2. Cut off my long hair<br />3. Participate in a public pagan ritual<br />4. Take a painting or drawing class<br />5. Take a ballroom dancing class<br />6. Take yoga classes<br />7. Learn to belly dance<br />8. Go on a writer's retreat<br />9. Get a Master's of Fine Arts in Creative Writing.<br />10. "Break up" with a toxic friend. Ten things I would love to do but am not allowed to do:
1. Wear a sexy outfit
2. Cut off my long hair
3. Participate in a public pagan ritual
4. Take a painting or drawing class
5. Take a ballroom dancing class
6. Take yoga classes
7. Learn to belly dance
8. Go on a writer's retreat
9. Get a Master's of Fine Arts in Creative Writing.
10. "Break up" with a toxic friend.

]]> By: Beth Owl's Daughter http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1405 Beth Owl's Daughter Thu, 25 Jun 2009 13:11:24 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1405 No, not a mess; just, let's say, a not quite completely baked cake! :-) <br /><br /> - Beth (who evidently needs to go <br />eat breakfast)... No, not a mess; just, let's say, a not quite completely baked cake! :-)

– Beth (who evidently needs to go
eat breakfast)…

]]> By: freak22 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1404 freak22 Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:21:17 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1404 clearly Thalia is not the only one in a mood. well now that I've gotten that out in a safe environment I think I'm going to really try this exercise. <br /><br />Ten things I would love to do if it were allowed. <br /><br />1. Dance on the beach at sunset<br />2. Buy every book that I love to read rather then rent them from the library<br />3. spend more time with my family<br />4. spend a week with my family in Portland<br />5. be a full time student<br />6. get a new horse<br />7. visit San Fransisco again<br />8. live my pagan path out loud<br />9. stop talking to some of my blood relatives (totally a virtue trap)<br />10. drive some where I've never been<br /><br />after my little rant I started to think over this whole Virtue Trap and i know that I have been in this. <br />I've been aware of it for months even if i didn't have a name for it. I have many friends who will tell you that I have repeatedly told them "some times you just have to be a bit selfish and its okay" I just realized as we got to some of the hard questions on this journey that I do not take my own advice at all. so about two months ago I started to remind my self that I need to be selfish some times and I have done some of that. my husband even reminds me to take that time because he knows how important it is for me.eek I'm a mess clearly Thalia is not the only one in a mood. well now that I've gotten that out in a safe environment I think I'm going to really try this exercise.

Ten things I would love to do if it were allowed.

1. Dance on the beach at sunset
2. Buy every book that I love to read rather then rent them from the library
3. spend more time with my family
4. spend a week with my family in Portland
5. be a full time student
6. get a new horse
7. visit San Fransisco again
8. live my pagan path out loud
9. stop talking to some of my blood relatives (totally a virtue trap)
10. drive some where I've never been

after my little rant I started to think over this whole Virtue Trap and i know that I have been in this.
I've been aware of it for months even if i didn't have a name for it. I have many friends who will tell you that I have repeatedly told them "some times you just have to be a bit selfish and its okay" I just realized as we got to some of the hard questions on this journey that I do not take my own advice at all. so about two months ago I started to remind my self that I need to be selfish some times and I have done some of that. my husband even reminds me to take that time because he knows how important it is for me.eek I'm a mess

]]> By: freak22 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1398 freak22 Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:19:56 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1398 I have to agree with Thalia that I tend to think things over, and that this is not very stimulating. in fact its kind of depressing because some of these circumstances in my life cannot change right now. my husband lost his job a year ago and still has not found work so any thing that takes money, including gas in the car to drive there is very very difficult for me to do. <br /><br />I have gotten better and the things I would love to do around the house especially since starting this journey with you Beth. I tell my husband about what I'm doing and he ties to help. like last month he helped me arrange a part of the living room just for me and my writing because before then I could never find a comfortable place to work my art. <br /><br />All the things I would put on a list of things I'm not allowed to do are the things that take money that right now I don't have and it hurts to remind my self for the 100th time what I want that I can't do.<br /><br />But I have my life my love and my family so as they say this too shall pass and then I'll be able to dance on the beach as sunset like I haven't done in over 5 years. I have to agree with Thalia that I tend to think things over, and that this is not very stimulating. in fact its kind of depressing because some of these circumstances in my life cannot change right now. my husband lost his job a year ago and still has not found work so any thing that takes money, including gas in the car to drive there is very very difficult for me to do.

I have gotten better and the things I would love to do around the house especially since starting this journey with you Beth. I tell my husband about what I'm doing and he ties to help. like last month he helped me arrange a part of the living room just for me and my writing because before then I could never find a comfortable place to work my art.

All the things I would put on a list of things I'm not allowed to do are the things that take money that right now I don't have and it hurts to remind my self for the 100th time what I want that I can't do.

But I have my life my love and my family so as they say this too shall pass and then I'll be able to dance on the beach as sunset like I haven't done in over 5 years.

]]> By: Thalia http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1394 Thalia Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:46:00 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1394 Well I'm here. I'm thinking about it. I'm a muller, usually.<br /><br />It does feel like it's going too fast for me, but I figured that was just me. I can be very sllooooowwwww at things.<br /><br />Ten things I would love to do but am not allowed to do:<br /><br />1. Live alone<br />2. Go away somewhere by myself<br />3. Live as a witch<br />4. Make that kitchen mine<br />5. Redecorate anything in this house<br />6. Which I guess is all breaking down to that I don't feel I am allowed to claim this space as my own or live here as myself.<br /><br />Which then I guess also includes stuff like<br /><br />7. Have a lover<br />8. Take the car and just drive<br />9. Buy good food<br />10. Make money<br /><br />Filled those out fast with the first things that came to mind. Oy and ugh.<br /><br />I gotta say that this is kind of not "stimulating [my] sense of expansiveness and joy," really.<br /><br />Still feeling kind of deadpan grim today I guess. Well I'm here. I'm thinking about it. I'm a muller, usually.

It does feel like it's going too fast for me, but I figured that was just me. I can be very sllooooowwwww at things.

Ten things I would love to do but am not allowed to do:

1. Live alone
2. Go away somewhere by myself
3. Live as a witch
4. Make that kitchen mine
5. Redecorate anything in this house
6. Which I guess is all breaking down to that I don't feel I am allowed to claim this space as my own or live here as myself.

Which then I guess also includes stuff like

7. Have a lover
8. Take the car and just drive
9. Buy good food
10. Make money

Filled those out fast with the first things that came to mind. Oy and ugh.

I gotta say that this is kind of not "stimulating [my] sense of expansiveness and joy," really.

Still feeling kind of deadpan grim today I guess.

]]> By: Beth Owl's Daughter http://www.owlsdaughter.com/2009/06/forbidden-joys/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 Beth Owl's Daughter Wed, 24 Jun 2009 12:07:43 +0000 http://www.owlsdaughter.com/http:/www.owlsdaughter.com/forbidden-joys/#comment-1393 Really? Nobody? Really? Nobody?

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